If you’re anything like me, you have a couple of social
media sites open on your browser right now – we’re talking Facebook, Twitter,
Tumblr, all of the good stuff. We all love how this can connect us as people.
We have friends in Paris and friends in Amsterdam and friends in Buenos Aires,
and we’ve had some pretty deep conversations with them, which tend to go
something like:
hi
hi
hru
gud u
gud lol
lol
After all, if you know what
someone looks like when they’re in their bedroom before a night out, or what
songs they listen to when they’re feeling down, that means that you know them,
right?
Wrong, actually. If we take a look at how we interact in
contemporary society, we’ll see that these tools for connecting us on a broader
scale are, in fact, shutting down our interpersonal skills. You just have to
ask yourself when the last time was that you rode the bus and talked to the
person across the aisle instead of scrolling through Instagram, and you’ll see
that we’re not becoming more social – we’re becoming a mass of egotistical
loners, who feed off the appreciation of strangers who we will never meet.
If you take a minute to look at your own Facebook habits,
you might notice just how much time you spend looking at Facebook – and more
often than not, it’s not in order to talk to people, or hear about people’s
achievements, or anything of the sort. It’s so that we can see how people are
receiving our great news, our pictures, our funny little anecdotes, because
let’s face it, if we put a selfie up and it doesn’t get at least five likes in
ten minutes, then what’s the point of having it up there at all?
Studies have shown that people with more Facebook friends
are deemed more narcissistic, and are more likely to exploit those around them
in order to gain praise. They are also most likely to accept friend requests
from strangers so that they can receive some form of social support, but are
far less likely to extend social support to others. Think about whether or not
you do this, and if you do, don’t be too down on yourself: you might be your
average narcissistic Facebooker, as the majority of participants in
this experiment showed these signs
too.
While Facebook, along with its brother and sister networking
sites, undoubtedly has its positives, it’s important to realise exactly how
we’re behaving because of it. It’s fine to upload selfies and statuses and
tweet to your heart’s content, but we all need some balance in our lives. If
you feel like you are potentially becoming an all-about-me Facebooker, then
perhaps it’s time to spring clean your friend list – after all, do you really
need to see every update from that guy that you saw across the room at that
party in 2009?